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Escaping A Bad Relationship

Most guys face this situation eventually. How they handle it can determine their entire future. So it’s something worth taking a look at.

It begins with you, Mister Single Guy, minding your own business when one day you cross paths with some woman who catches your eye. It might be at the mall, online or at a party. But she seems interesting enough that you chat her up and ask her out on a date. Skip forward a few months, and you’re now in an exclusive relationship with her. Maybe even living together. The purpose of this whole dating phase was to see how well the two of you got along. To find out if it’s something ‘real’ that could move onward into marriage.

But then things take a bad turn along the way. That interesting, hot-looking, funny woman you met? Well, now that you’ve spent some time with her and seen her 24/7 as he is when she’s not online or at a party.. she is NOT the woman you thought she was. Maybe she’s neurotic about plants or dogs. Maybe she’s got issues with spending money way beyond her means.bitchy girlfriend dump her crazy neurotic breakup Maybe she’s incredibly jealous or worse yet, she treats you like a doormat. (aka; ‘bitch’)

Whatever the issues are, we call those ‘Red Flags’. Just like in football, rules and boundaries have been broken and the red-flags are flying up on a daily basis to tell you, “She is NOT the One.” Maybe she’s the ‘one’ for someone else. But you’re life has turned into a major chore trying to keep her either happy or not turning into a raving lunatic.

At this moment, let me share with you my litmus test on keeping a relationship or not.   Ask yourself, in all honesty, the following question;

“Is this woman making my life better.. or harder?”

That’s it. Chances are you already know the answer to this. But I will tell you what many guys I’ve spoken with do. They panic.

They don’t want to face the fact that this woman is a pain in the ass. Why? Simple answer. Because breaking up with her means no more sex. Back to being single and hunting for it on a regular basis. It’s a sad situation but way too many men will let a woman destroy their life, dreams and hopes all because they are addicted to the sex. And even more pathetic.. with time he’s getting less and less sex as she holds it hostage to get what she wants. At this point, a man has let himself become a doormat.

So how do these guys justify staying in a relationship with this controlling beotch? They go into denial. Friends will come up to them and say, “Dude.. you gotta dump this chick. She’s sucking the life out of you, man. You look like crap. Dump her already.” And that’s when the denial kicks into gear. That’s when these guys will say things like, “She’s not always this bad.”. Or, “She’s great in the sack.” Ever hear a woman who is hooked up with a guy who beats her? Same story. Making excuses and ignoring all the evidence that it’s a toxic relationship.

I wish there was one phrase that you could tell a guy in this situation that would make him snap out of it and dump her.  There isn’t.  If you or a buddy is in this situation, it takes hitting addiction bad girlfriend breakup single guy dump herrock bottom and seeing the problem for what it is.  Kinda like any other addiction, the doormat guy needs to accept that he’s making his decisions based on his addiction to her vagina and not on what’s best for his life.

Getting back to my ‘rule’.. if you find yourself in this situation where you are in a bad relationship that is making your life harder rather than better, you need to remove her from your life.  It’s time to end it.  Keep in mind the following;

You don’t need her permission to break up.
You don’t need to ‘talk it out’ one more time.

If YOU decide it’s over.. it’s over.  The rest is just a matter of getting her crap out of your apartment, blocking her on social media and getting back to enjoying your life WITHOUT her making it an unbearable ordeal.  Remember those days?  Going where you want.  Returning when you felt like it.  Enjoying your free time.  Not needing permission.. and definitely not getting an earful of crap just because some ex-girlfriend ‘Liked’ your photo on Facebook.

I go into this in more detail in the following video.   If you have a buddy who needs to hear this, take him to a burger place and tell him to stop the madness.  Let him know you got his back and will help get her out of his life.  He might resist it.  He might even get pissed that you are putting him on the spot to fix his situation.  But if he’s your friend.. do it anyway.

Reekay
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Author: Reekay Velez

Living the bachelor life since 2008, started and ran a successful computer repair business and catering company before deciding to travel and live in the Philippines in 2012. Created a successful travel vlog, www.seetheph.com, in 2013 with over 7 million views. Reekay also does a podcast, www.reekayradio.com, and is slated to explore Southeast Asia in 2017 with a tour of Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand. He is the chief editor of BachelorLifeCoach.com and is also available for private consults via Skype.

2 comments

  1. The best one liner I’ve heard that has really helped me in these situations is a take on the famous line from the film,’ Jerry Maguire.’ Instead of “You complete me,” I keep telling myself, ” You deplete me.” You are spot on about recognizing the red flags and getting her out your life as soon as you can. The issue I have in the Philippines is sometimes these women are really messed up and managing the blowback can be a challenge. By that I mean she, and probably at least some members of her family, have maybe gotten used to the money and will not take kindly to its disruption. Now you have the possibility of lies being spread about you nd the very real threat that these lies will be believed by her clan. Now you are looking over your shoulder. How do you get her out of your life and minimize the blowback when you are dealing with this kind of woman? Great article and video Reekay.

    1. I’ve had several Filipinas in my life that were for companionship (not a relationship). And I’ve managed to stay friends with them even after moving on to the next girl. But the key is to avoid giving them so much money they become dependent on it to begin with.

      For recreational dating, I’ll cover the usual expenses; movie tickets, dinner, taxi, etc. I’ll even get her a nice dress if I want to see her wearing it on our next date. (or later that evening. 😉 ) but aside from some money to get home (which is about 800P).. no other money. No ‘loans’. No money for ’emergencies’. No extravagant birthday gifts. Just the basics.

      And I might see them only two or three times a month so, it’s not a huge loss for them when I move on.

      This is why I am very slow about having a true ‘relationship’. In the last 8 years I’ve had only 4 Filipina relationships. And I take very good care of my latest ex/gf, even after our breakup.

      As for the bad chismis and such, only when it gets to a manic level and you think maybe your safety is a concern.. not an issue. Other girls know that a Filipina ex will often spread bad rumors. And they won’t let that keep you from dating them. Even a simple apartment change from one side of town to the other will do the trick. If it gets truly nuts.. move to the next nearest island. Done.

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